Too Personal: On Writing About My Mother’s Dementia

More at… https://paulettahansel.wordpress.com/2018/01/25/too-personal-on-writing-about-my-mothers-dementia/ Too Personal like the underside of a cat’s tongue, like someone else’s bathwater, like bedsheets still warm, like a spit-wet thumb flicking sleep from the corner of your mother’s eye, like an old hymn hummed beneath curdled breath, like ragged stitches pulled from a wound. These poems are too … Read More

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The Practice of Poetry: Poems as Love

More at… https://paulettahansel.wordpress.com/2018/02/02/the-practice-of-poetry-poems-as-love/ You Never Were the mother I wanted at the time I had you. Always I was swallowing down the longing rising for the mother come and gone. The one whose cool hand nested in a tangle of my curls. The one whose hair was blueblack crow, caught midflight. Once gravity had settled you to ground, … Con… Read More

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Role Reversal – What It’s Like To Need Caregiving Support

More at… http://www.caregivingmadeeasy.com/role-reversal-what-its-like-to-need-caregiving-support/ A View From The Other Side Of Caregiving   In mid-December, I went in for surgery. It was supposed to be one surgery, but in the end, I had three surgeries in three weeks. I also had the flu in between my surgeries. My second round of surgery was a far more difficult recovery. I’m …… Read More

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Picking Up the Pieces After the Person You Have Been Caring for Dies

More at… http://thecaregiverspace.org/picking-up-the-pieces-after-the-person-you-have-been-caring-for-dies/ When you are in the midst of being a caregiver you build your time and your life around managing the caregiver tasks that need to be done. As a caregiver for my dad I know my schedule revolved around visits to the doctor, the hospital, the assisted living facility, and ultimately the skilled nursin… Read More

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